Absent etiquette, use instincts

April 14, 2006
As much as I hate to admit it, and as earnestly I have sought evidence to the contrary, rules of etiquette have become anachronistic. Etiquette is dead. There are no rules. Gone are the days when housewives in shirtwaists and heels marked a page in the family volume of Emily Post to instruct their daughters »

Dance harkens back to more social times

March 31, 2006
When I first heard about the Tangled Up In Blue “Contra Dance,” I was confused. What was this argumentative-sounding affair? Was it somehow contradictory? Did it attract contrary types? Counter-revolutionaries? The event, which happened last Friday, March 24, turned out to be a social dance of the country and western variety, a benevolent invasion of »

For dining hall menus, planning can improve lackluster offerings

March 3, 2006
Last semester, Yale University Dining Services conducted a survey to assess dining quality. Last month, the Yale Sustainable Food Project collected signatures in favor of the Project’s expansion. Students in residential colleges besides Berkeley constantly grumble about the food on their plates. Let’s face it: We don’t like the food we get in dining halls. »

Sex Week magazine failed to recognize nuances in gender relations

February 17, 2006
The illustrations in “Sex Week at Yale: The Magazine” feature no fewer than 20 women wearing underwear, lingerie or less. One of these women is the cover girl, naked but for Yale panties and hoop earrings. Four are playboy bunnies — one sitting in the palm of a giant male hand — two are Yale »

Elitist belittling reflects poorly on the elite

February 3, 2006
Here are some things that Yale students get away with saying about other universities: “I think that having a Quinnipiac-themed party is a good idea, because then all the girls will come dressed like sluts”; “Quinnipiac is good for one thing: the hot people who come to Toad’s”; “That building looks like something at a »

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January 20, 2006
A few nights ago, as I fumbled for my keys outside my entryway door, a receipt fluttered from my bag onto the wet path. I didn’t want to pick it up. I was cold, my clothing had been thinned and chilled by the wind and my fingers were numb. I didn’t feel like bending down »

Flood of leaflets only annoys students

November 11, 2005
In recent weeks, a startling abundance of paper, in the form of little sheets, has made its way into my living space. Despite the incredible ease and convenience of electronic communication — through which almost everybody can be reached instantly and directly — the preferred means of mass communication seem to have regressed to sheets »

Coming to accept cell phones, with a sigh

October 28, 2005
Once upon a fairly recent time, the prevalence of cellular phones annoyed and offended me. I shuddered to see people taking calls in the library, leaving phones on during class and chatting as they walked down the street, ignoring the real world around them and retreating to a different, far-away land, a land of beeps »

We ask the wrong questions about Harriet Miers

October 14, 2005
Nobody seems to like Supreme Court nominee Harriet Miers, and for mostly the wrong reasons. Initially, prominent Republicans worried that Miers was not conservative enough, that there was too much mystery surrounding her personal beliefs on issues — namely abortion — that might appear before the court. Conservative activist James Dobson assured partisans that Miers »

Why gossip should be guilt-free

September 30, 2005
Growing up, we’re taught that gossip is cruel and that secrets are no fun. Talking about people behind their backs is rude and hurtful. It is catty, shallow. It’s bad. And all of this is true, right? We owe it to each other and ourselves to be honest and forthcoming, right? Wrong. Juicy secrets and »

No time for tea, or manners, either

September 16, 2005
Writing an etiquette column isn’t the only thing that I do with my time; I also serve tea in my college library one night each week. That’s right, I’m one of two library managers, and I take my job seriously. The students of Jonathan Edwards College — some of them, anyway — depend on me »

Girls who are super, but never quite great

September 2, 2005
Unlike Victorian ladies, who were supposed to be charming, and unlike feminists of a few decades ago, who were supposed to be powerful, girls today are supposed to have it all. Just look around and you’ll see that the Super Girls of our generation are pretty, healthy, charming, smart, savvy and powerful. Hell, they’re pretty »